One major difference between men and women in an uncomfortable dating situation is that women need to discuss the discomfort of a situation and men want to discern the most seamless way to find an exit without seeming like a sonofabitch. So when a couple experiences a humiliating experience and the woman feels the need to explain or apologize it would behoove her to know these few facts:
The man knows that it went as badly as you know it did. Let it go. The more you multiply words – the more divided you’ll be. He’s as humiliated as you are. But, men are different than women. Men don’t stand and explain why they are humiliated. They just get the hell out of the situation and wait for time to pass and their minds to forget.
Walk away. It isn’t going to happen.
If you pursue it – he’ll think: Glenn Close. Or worse. He’ll think you’re too needy and too dense to understand and he’ll think you’re too much work. Men avoid work. It requires change. And men seek solutions that won’t change the atmosphere he’s found his comfort. This relationship is too in debt. It’s priced itself out of the market.
Let it go.
The women I’ve dated long term didn’t have the need to henpeck me with their discomfort. That’s how they remained my girlfriend.